Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Lovelorn contemplations...

I sometimes wonder how I'd behave
if I were to hear that you & I couldn't be together
& that you have no escape
I really don't know
I always think positively
But when it comes to reality...
I am a lil scared
All I know is that ...
I'm gonna be devastated
I may recover...
But I'll still nurse feelings for you
that'll last me all my life
of that I'm sure
Our journey thus far has been quite a roller-coaster despite its short duration
It takes more than normal effort to be able to cope with its loss
& when you meet someone you instantly know you wanna spend the rest of your life with....
it takes u through intense pain to be able to survive the loss
I don't know if I'd be able to cope with it
But I know I'll always love you
Of this I'm sure
You're my soulmate!
You're the one for me
& as long as I know this fact, I can face anything
I'm brave
...in love
.....with you
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Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Six degrees of separation



I read somewhere that everybody on this planet is separated by only six other people. Six degrees of separation between us and everyone else on this planet. The President of the United States, a gondolier in Venice, just fill in the names. I find that extremely comforting, that we're so close, but I also find it like Chinese water torture that we're so close because you have to find the right six people to make the connection. It's not just big names—it's anyone. A native in a rain forest, a Tierra del Fuegan, an Eskimo. I am bound—you are bound—to everyone on this planet by a trail of six people. It's a profound thought: how Paul found us; how to find the man whose son he claims to be, or perhaps is, although I doubt it. How everyone is a new door, opening into other worlds.

So goes the famous monologue by Ouisa in John Guare's famous play "Six Degrees of Separation".
Six degrees of separation: I've heard these words being dropped many a times by a lot of people... enough reason for my interest to get triggered in search for information on it but enough laziness to put the task off for another day...
My ex-manager gave it to me as homework a long time back... Today, all of a sudden, I decided to actually go online & check up for info on it.
A 'degree of separation' is a measure of social distance between people. You are one degree away from everyone you know, two degrees away from everyone they know, and so on. The theory of six degrees of separation proposes that, since we are all linked by chains of acquaintance, you are just six introductions away from any other person on the planet.
The story goes something like this:
In 1929, a Hungarian writer Frigyes Karinthy observed that technological advances in communications and travel were helping form friendship networks that could grow larger and span even greater distances. He felt that the modern world was 'shrinking' due to ever-increasing connectedness of human beings. He proposed this hypothesis in a short story called "Chains" advocating that the more people networking around the world, the less the social distance between people.
This idea is supposed to have inspired social networking sites such as Facebook & Orkut.
Michael Gurevich and Stanley Milgram researched upon Karinthy's theory. One weird story goes that the famous and largely controversial social psychologist, Milgram, conducted studies examining people's obedience to authority by testing how many would administer potentially lethal electric shocks to screaming victims. Shocked? Horrified? Well... if it's any consolation, the screaming victim was an actor in disguise. & the study showed abt 65% of the people willing to inflict this pain. :)
Another story is that he conducted an experiment using residents of America's midwest to send packages to several hundred people in Boston, giving them just a few details of their target such as name and profession. He made a startling discovery that on an average the package went through just a chain of five people before finding the recipient.
It's not so difficult to believe this theory. Imagine your cousin got a marriage proposal. It won't take long for anyone to do a background check on this person because one of them will know someone from their place, who would know their neighbour or relative, who would've gone to school with their father, & so on.
If I were to take an extreme case such as finding a person in say... a remote village in Kenya. What would I do? Hmmm... The first thing that comes to my mind is that a lot of Kenyans participate in the marathons in India. If I were to connect to them, chances are they know someone living or doing business in that area. I have 2 degrees already. :)
Researchers at Microsoft are said to have researched this theory using electronic conversations between about 180 million people. They now deem this theory right-nearly.
Now here's an interesting summary from me. I (1) know this guy from the UK (2) who has about 3 sisters, one of whom (3) has a friend (4) who acted in some of the Harry Potter movies and is acquainted with Daniel Radcliff (5). There! I'm not even 6 degrees away from the Harry Potter actor. Ha! :)
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Monday, March 24, 2008

Singing out of tune...


What would you do if I sang out of tune?
Would you stand up and walk out on me?

... so sang Joe Crocker, "with a little help from my friends".

How many of us can say that the friendships that we held during our life did not have an impact on creating the persons that we are today? Our outlook in life is like a loop of thread... It is vulnerable to the highs & the lows of friendship. A lot of how we are today is due to what life taught us in our growing up days. So why did we need friends in our life? Were we caught up in the hunger for intimacy of mind, as psychologists put it? Or is it the innate desire to be loyal to someone? They say friendships get formed when our personality is in harmony with another's. So then why do clashes occur? Why do we hold these emotions to heart all our life & base decisions on these trials of our life?
Why do these lines from the song relate so much to Kevin Arnold in "The Wonder Years"?

If you are one of those people who, like me, grew up watching this series, you might have been able to identify the pangs of childhood... especially if you had anyone walk out on you back then. :)

Growing up happens in a heartbeat. One day you're in diapers, the next day you're gone. But the memories of childhood stay with you for the long haul. I remember a place, a town, a house, like a lot of houses. A yard like a lot of other yards. On a street like a lot of other streets. And the thing is, after all these years, I still look back...with wonder.

So while you ponder on that, here's some interesting read.